Thankful for my BlendedHustle! This Thanksgiving was a little different from the usual. My husband worked the Cowboys vs Bill's game. My birth babe made the choice to stay with his dad for the festivities. & my bonus babe made the choice to stay with me instead of with his grandparents! I was very excited that my bonus babe decided to stay with me for Thanksgiving! 💫 His decision to travel with me to see my family a couple of hours away made me feel like I must be doing something right 💫 I'm beyond grateful for each one of my guys 💗 Each and every one of them have taught me so much! My husband has taught me to be independent and know that no matter what I will be fine all alone. My bonus babe has taught me compassion and so much more love than I ever thought I had. & my birth babe has shown me a mirror of myself and taught me what I need to continue to work on! 💗💗 What have you been thankful for this season? 🦃🦃
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I have lots of things to be thankful for this year. Awesome kiddos. A growing coaching business. Some awesome new friends. Amazing clients and an even more amazing family. But this guy right here, none of it would mean anything without him. He's been my biggest cheerleader, my confidant, my shoulder to cry on. He is my best friend. He's always been my best friend. But we haven't always treated each other that way. Our first 3 years were rough. Super rough. We were smack in the middle of a court battle, trying to start a new relationship, trying to start a blended family. There were many times I wasn't sure we were going to make it. There were multiple times we both tried to give up. "I just don't know if this is going to work," has come out of both of our mouths. I'm most grateful that we didn't listen. I'm grateful we got help and that I found coaching. In all honesty, I believe in my heart of hearts, that had I found coaching back then, we'd never have even ended up in court. But I digress. I do not have a perfect relationship. I have a relationship that's perfect for me. And I did the work and continue to do the work needed to foster that. Relationships are hard. Relationships in a blended family are really hard. Don't make rash decisions, especially when you're angry or frustrated. When emotions are high, intelligence is low. Your brain is going to want to give up. Don't let it. Not until you've asked for help. And yes, coaching is not cheap. No, it's not covered by insurance. Do you know what else isn't covered by insurance? Attorney's fees for divorces. Real estate agents to sell your house and find you a new one. The new furniture you'll have to buy. Or boxes and movers to pack up your stuff when you decide to leave. There is no price tag for the cost of having to start over again. Especially when you probably have something worth saving right now. The first step is asking for help. I am here to help. #blendedfamilycoach #stepmom #biomom #lifecoach #happywife #partnersincrime #marriagegoals
Thanksgiving Break is in full swing! Are you ready for the holidays?
You will never attain/create the life that God intended you to experience in this world, if one of your fears is the fear of being judged. People will judge you.... the question is... what will you do about it?? . . #freshstartcoach #blendedfamilycoach #freshstartcoaching #liveyourbestlife #lifecoachke #adelicatebalancebk #refocussedlife
I am always learning and trying to look forward to the future and feeling sincerely grateful for the past.... (with its good and bad😊). . Am looking forward to an awesome week...Happy Monday 💃🏽💃🏽. . #lookingforward #mondayinspiration #refocussedlife #freshstartcoach #freshstartcoaching #blendedfamilycoach #lifecoachke #adelicatebalancebk #adelicatebalanceauthor
I felt pulled in every direction. With 8 kids at home, what would I expect, right? But it was more than that. Not only were the kids’ lives full of normal needs and activities, but every day I felt pulled from the many things I needed to do by responding to everyone’s immediate, "emergency" needs. Their own lack of planning, irresponsibility, and the precedent I had set for them, sent me running all over town. A forgotten lunch here, and a needed permission slip there. One emergency after another turned into a frantic attempt at getting dinner on the table, and a night of chaos. By the end of each day I would look at the mountain of incomplete tasks and feel so worthless and defeated. I sat asking myself, "Why do I feel so worthless? I spent the day serving those I love." One day, as if they were speaking directly to me, someone gave me the answer. . I was driving to the aid of yet another “child in crisis.” My only escape from the mayhem of the day, was generally found in listening to a podcast as I drove. That day it was "The Brendon Show." There he said, "The (email) inbox is nothing but...other people’s agendas...get your agenda back." That was me! My LIFE felt like an inbox of other people’s agendas, and I began a search to find ways to reclaim it. Through Brendon's advice, parenting books and many other things, I began to take back my agenda and with it my life. . I know I’m the only one who feels defeated and pulled in every direction. The hardest thing for me was coming to the realization for myself that doing everything for my kids at the drop of a hat is not what makes me a good parent or stepparent. What makes me a good parent is helping my children develop the mental, spiritual, and social skills they will need to be productive, loving and joyful adults. I had to realize that giving everything I had to the agenda of others, and not taking time for myself, made it impossible to show up as my best self for those I loved. Although I still struggle, reclaiming my agenda has brought me a greater sense of peace. I have more clarity, do more things that matter for my family, and am better able to show up for my spouse and children, who I love so dearly.
Happy Entrepreneur Day When I first started BlendedHustle I really didnt know how I wanted to do things. I just knew that i wanted to help people. I wanted to help: Single moms & dads Blended families Broken families Young women who were in the exact same place I had been in years and years ago. I remember helping my very first step mom navigate her way through the blended life. I remember the feelings that came over me when we had our very first breakthrough moments! The feeling was so MAGICAL 🌌 I couldn't get enough! The feeling of helping people overcome all those obstacles was EXACTLY what I wanted on this journey. Today I am so honored to be helping 5 other Stepmoms navigate their way through the blended life 🧡 I 100% without a doubt love what I do every single day! If your ready to do the work and show up as your fully expressed self drop me a 🙋🏽♀️, send me a message, or email me at email@example.com I would love to hear from you! ♡ BlendedHustle
As you enjoy this precious gift called life that was given to us, keep in mind no matter how old you are... there is an older you depending on you. Have a great weekend. . #FreshCoach #smartchoices #lovelifequotes #selflovematters #lifecoachke #BlendedFamilyCoach #Refocussedlife
Not everyday is rainbows 🌈 and butterflies 🦋 . . . The father of my child and I have worked so hard on coparenting. . . When we first began our journey it was very very toxic. Our relationship was like fire and gasoline! . . The father of my child would call all the time and gripe about my husband. He was ALWAYS saying "I heard your husband" *insert eyeroll* 🙄 This statement right away would make me lash out! I wanted to yell and scream and cry all at the same time. I was always overwhelmed! . . When I stopped responding to the negativity everything slowly started to calm down. My husband would always remind me how I was in control of my own actions. As simple as that sounds we often times do need to take a step back and be reminded of this. . . . How was I letting someone else's response control my actions? . . When I would respond from a place of understanding rather than always being defensive I started to see the impact. Not only in my attitude but the father of my child, my kid, and my husband! . . I'm not saying there isn't days I don't feel like screaming or getting angry. Today the father of my child text me and wanted to get our son this weekend but we are taking family pictures. Soooooooo his response was "FINE BYE" 😳 . . Instead of responding back in a negative way I took a little time and reminded myself. . . Just breathe . . 💥Maybe the father of my child is having a bad day! 💥Maybe he misses his kid 💥Maybe he is late on Bill's, 💥Maybe his truck wouldn't start . . . Whatever it is remember you are ONLY in control on you! . . Remind yourself to just breathe! . . Take a moment for yourself! . . . Can you relate?
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I have been blessed to do what I love.... that’s to be part of support to people to create and design a life they love😍. This was a few months ago speaking @voiceofawoman event. Really humbled by the experience 🙏 . #refocussedlife #freshstartcoach #freshstartcoaching #blendedfamilycoach #unchainedwoman
Tonight at 9 p.m. central standard BlendedHustle will be going live! . . . . Come join me as I share my BlendedHustle journey! . . . . . I would love to connect with all of you Blended families 💗 . . . . .🌻 Can't wait 🌻
Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better! . . . Self-awareness is empowerment! . . Over the weekend I accomplished so many things on my own! . . I traveled 3 states away . ALL BY MYSELF! . That is HUGE! . Then, my husband and I ran our very first biathlon in the freezing cold weather with 15 water obstacles. I was dead set on not doing the obstacles because of the water and the tiny spaces. BUT we did it! We both finished 3rd place in our divisions! . For me I overcame so many road blocks that were holding me back from doing things I never imagined I could do! . . I took the plunge and just went on the road trip. I left the fear behind and just did the thing. I went through the water obstacles and crawled through the smallest spaces. . . Now that i pushed myself to a whole new level I will do better! . . How are you showing up today? What are you doing to push yourself! . . Let's push through the road blocks and the limiting beliefs and live a life of fulfillment!
According to @drphil one of my mentors, the relationships we have or will have with our friends/colleagues/neighbors and even our own family members can be divided into two - GIVERS - those who contribute positively in our lives, make us better people and truly care for us. Then we have others who are TAKERS - those who are all about taking from us. They may pretend they care for you but they don't, all they care about is themselves...... they will manipulate/coerce/guilty trip you and do anything to take what they want from you - could be in emotions/stuff. . . Learn to know the difference... you have no power to change the TAKER to A GIVER. Be conscious also about your role in other peoples lives. At the end of the day as @drphil says ... TAKERS may eat better but GIVERS sleep better😊 #blendedfamilycoach #drphil #blendedfamilynetwork #freshstartcoach #surroundyourselfwithgoodpeople #selfcare
Hello 𝓑𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓭𝓗𝓾𝓼𝓽𝓵𝓮 Community ▪︎ ▪︎ ▪︎ For those of you new to this page my name is Cecilia and I am the creator of ▪︎ 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓃𝒹𝑒𝒹𝐻𝓊𝓈𝓉𝓁𝑒 ▪︎ 💫I am a Stepmom Coach 💫Blended Family Motivator 💫Young Women Advocate ▪︎ ▪︎ I grew up in a very toxic blended family since the age of 2. Both of my parents remarried and their partners weren't thrilled about their stepchildren! ▪︎ ▪︎ At the age of 18 I found myself as a young women being a stepmother in a very toxic relationship! I was the evil step parent I had always hated growing up! I was so young and naive I had no clue what I was doing! ▪︎ ▪︎ I felt so alone in the world with no resources or people to reach out to. ▪︎ I felt trapped! ▪︎ I had to learn how to overcome the struggle on my own! I had to dig deep and do the inner work! ▪︎ ▪︎ I wanted to create the resources for stepmothers, Stepfamilies, and young women just like myself! ▪︎ ▪︎ So I created BlendedHustle! ▪︎ ▪︎ ▪︎ Sometimes in a blended family our BlendedHustle can feel like a busy, hurried scene! ▪︎ ▪︎ I would love to connect with all of you in this community and know a little bit about you! ▪︎ Tell me as much or as little as you would like! ▪︎ ▪︎ ▪︎ 💥How long have you been a step parent? 💥Did you have step parents growing up? 💥Was your experience good or bad? 💥Where are you from? ▪︎ ▪︎ Let's connect!
F▪︎R▪︎E▪︎E . . . This week I will be offering . . . F▪︎R▪︎E▪︎E . . . Coaching calls! ▪︎ 💥If your ready to share your story with someone who will listen. ▪︎ 💥If your ready to share your story with someone who has been through the same journey. ▪︎ 💥If your ready to make a CHANGE in your blended life! ▪︎ Coaching is not therapy, counseling, or mentoring. Coaching focuses on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Together we work towards your future, we heal the past. ▪︎ In coaching I partner with you to help you get from where you are to where you want to be. ▪︎ I help you create new perspectives and let go of old beliefs that no longer serve you! ▪︎ I will listen, ask powerful questions, and offer insights! ▪︎ ▪︎ Throughout this process I will encourage and empower you to achieve your desired outcome! ▪︎ ▪︎ Message me @blendedhustle this week! ▪︎ We will schedule a phone call or a video call to discuss YOU! ▪︎ After talking and going over your BlendedHustle you will receive an email overview! Let's make CHANGE today!
Co-Parenting • • I'm not even going to lie having to separate our personal relationships from the co-parenting relationships was • • 💥HARD💥 • I held on to so much resentment, hurt, anger, hostility! • • I knew if I wanted a successful coparenting relationship I needed to set all those feelings aside. • • >The hardest part< •I had to learn to get those negative feelings out somewhere else. I had to stay focused on the children! It took us years to finally coparent without conflict! • • Don't get me wrong we still have our moments but I remind myself! • • ◇I am in control of my actions◇ • • If #coparenting is hard for you here are a few tips: •Set hurt and anger aside •Improve communication with your co-parent •Co-Parent as a team •Make transitions and visitations easier • • Consistency is key 🔑 • Now 8 years later we can all go on vacation together, hang out at the kitchen table, just simply be together and happy! • • • If your struggling to make this happen let's chat! I wanna hear from you!
The conversation has already started on our Blended Mums' Network WhatsApp group...Where stepmums and stepmums to be, get support/support one another from any location they may be, access at anytime at your convenience. We still have opening for more women. To join us call 0726460245 or send a message. . #blendedfamilymum #stepmumsupportcircle #blendedfamilycoach #blendedfamilynetwork
There are many of us who are in marriages/relationships that have lasted for many years.... but not happy. Truth is its not the length that will bring happiness in your relationship. What matters is... is it a healthy or toxic relationship? . #toxicrelationships #blendedfamilynetwork #blendedfamilycoach #freshstartcoach
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Captured moments from Annual Singles Conference at Parklands Baptist. It was great speaking on Boundaries in Relationships in this conference. Thank you @parkiebaptist for the conference and the opportunity🙏🙏 . #settingboundaries #freshstartcoach #blendedfamilycoach #blendedfamilynetwork #jackiekeya #parklandsbaptistchurch