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Not everyday is rainbows 🌈 and butterflies 🦋 . . . The father of my child and I have worked so hard on coparenting. . . When we first began our journey it was very very toxic. Our relationship was like fire and gasoline! . . The father of my child would call all the time and gripe about my husband. He was ALWAYS saying "I heard your husband" *insert eyeroll* 🙄 This statement right away would make me lash out! I wanted to yell and scream and cry all at the same time. I was always overwhelmed! . . When I stopped responding to the negativity everything slowly started to calm down. My husband would always remind me how I was in control of my own actions. As simple as that sounds we often times do need to take a step back and be reminded of this. . . . How was I letting someone else's response control my actions? . . When I would respond from a place of understanding rather than always being defensive I started to see the impact. Not only in my attitude but the father of my child, my kid, and my husband! . . I'm not saying there isn't days I don't feel like screaming or getting angry. Today the father of my child text me and wanted to get our son this weekend but we are taking family pictures. Soooooooo his response was "FINE BYE" 😳 . . Instead of responding back in a negative way I took a little time and reminded myself. . . Just breathe . . 💥Maybe the father of my child is having a bad day! 💥Maybe he misses his kid 💥Maybe he is late on Bill's, 💥Maybe his truck wouldn't start . . . Whatever it is remember you are ONLY in control on you! . . Remind yourself to just breathe! . . Take a moment for yourself! . . . Can you relate?
BlendedHustle is... . . . . Learning about strengths we didn't know we had..... . . . . & dealing with fears we didn't know existed
Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better! . . . Self-awareness is empowerment! . . Over the weekend I accomplished so many things on my own! . . I traveled 3 states away . ALL BY MYSELF! . That is HUGE! . Then, my husband and I ran our very first biathlon in the freezing cold weather with 15 water obstacles. I was dead set on not doing the obstacles because of the water and the tiny spaces. BUT we did it! We both finished 3rd place in our divisions! . For me I overcame so many road blocks that were holding me back from doing things I never imagined I could do! . . I took the plunge and just went on the road trip. I left the fear behind and just did the thing. I went through the water obstacles and crawled through the smallest spaces. . . Now that i pushed myself to a whole new level I will do better! . . How are you showing up today? What are you doing to push yourself! . . Let's push through the road blocks and the limiting beliefs and live a life of fulfillment!
Hello 𝓑𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓭𝓗𝓾𝓼𝓽𝓵𝓮 Community ▪︎ ▪︎ ▪︎ For those of you new to this page my name is Cecilia and I am the creator of ▪︎ 𝐵𝓁𝑒𝓃𝒹𝑒𝒹𝐻𝓊𝓈𝓉𝓁𝑒 ▪︎ 💫I am a Stepmom Coach 💫Blended Family Motivator 💫Young Women Advocate ▪︎ ▪︎ I grew up in a very toxic blended family since the age of 2. Both of my parents remarried and their partners weren't thrilled about their stepchildren! ▪︎ ▪︎ At the age of 18 I found myself as a young women being a stepmother in a very toxic relationship! I was the evil step parent I had always hated growing up! I was so young and naive I had no clue what I was doing! ▪︎ ▪︎ I felt so alone in the world with no resources or people to reach out to. ▪︎ I felt trapped! ▪︎ I had to learn how to overcome the struggle on my own! I had to dig deep and do the inner work! ▪︎ ▪︎ I wanted to create the resources for stepmothers, Stepfamilies, and young women just like myself! ▪︎ ▪︎ So I created BlendedHustle! ▪︎ ▪︎ ▪︎ Sometimes in a blended family our BlendedHustle can feel like a busy, hurried scene! ▪︎ ▪︎ I would love to connect with all of you in this community and know a little bit about you! ▪︎ Tell me as much or as little as you would like! ▪︎ ▪︎ ▪︎ 💥How long have you been a step parent? 💥Did you have step parents growing up? 💥Was your experience good or bad? 💥Where are you from? ▪︎ ▪︎ Let's connect!
F▪︎R▪︎E▪︎E . . . This week I will be offering . . . F▪︎R▪︎E▪︎E . . . Coaching calls! ▪︎ 💥If your ready to share your story with someone who will listen. ▪︎ 💥If your ready to share your story with someone who has been through the same journey. ▪︎ 💥If your ready to make a CHANGE in your blended life! ▪︎ Coaching is not therapy, counseling, or mentoring. Coaching focuses on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Together we work towards your future, we heal the past. ▪︎ In coaching I partner with you to help you get from where you are to where you want to be. ▪︎ I help you create new perspectives and let go of old beliefs that no longer serve you! ▪︎ I will listen, ask powerful questions, and offer insights! ▪︎ ▪︎ Throughout this process I will encourage and empower you to achieve your desired outcome! ▪︎ ▪︎ Message me @blendedhustle this week! ▪︎ We will schedule a phone call or a video call to discuss YOU! ▪︎ After talking and going over your BlendedHustle you will receive an email overview! Let's make CHANGE today!
Co-Parenting • • I'm not even going to lie having to separate our personal relationships from the co-parenting relationships was • • 💥HARD💥 • I held on to so much resentment, hurt, anger, hostility! • • I knew if I wanted a successful coparenting relationship I needed to set all those feelings aside. • • >The hardest part< •I had to learn to get those negative feelings out somewhere else. I had to stay focused on the children! It took us years to finally coparent without conflict! • • Don't get me wrong we still have our moments but I remind myself! • • ◇I am in control of my actions◇ • • If #coparenting is hard for you here are a few tips: •Set hurt and anger aside •Improve communication with your co-parent •Co-Parent as a team •Make transitions and visitations easier • • Consistency is key 🔑 • Now 8 years later we can all go on vacation together, hang out at the kitchen table, just simply be together and happy! • • • If your struggling to make this happen let's chat! I wanna hear from you!
Together is our favorite place to be
I spent the entire weekend with my bonus babe! . . . Not 1 day . . The entire weekend! . . I am so grateful for this weekend and for the bond we have built! . . Birth mom texted me today asking if I could have her baby call her whenever we had time today! . . . I am forever grateful to be his bonus mom, friend, caretaker, and most of all protector! . . . I'm grateful i get to share this babe with his parents! . . . I started my BlendedHustle for this reason right here! I started helping blended families all around the world get to this point! I love watching the transformation! I love this journey! . . . Last night while hanging out I asked him to teach me the #flossdance 💃🏾 . . . We are polar opposite in everything! So taking time for eachother and learning what the other likes has been amazing! . . .. He is the sweetest boy and one of my biggest motivators! . . . What is 1 thing your #stepchildren have taught you?
Quality time with stepchildren♡ If you would of asked me many years ago if I spent quality time with my bonus babe I would of told you no! If you would of asked why I would of told you because he is so attached to his dad! . . You know when a baby goes to the babysitter and the babysitter tries to grab the baby? They start crying reaching out for their parents. . . Well, that is kinda how attached my stepson was to his dad. Which is normal considering their past! I realized I had to gain my stepsons trust in order to spend quality time. I had to PROVE myself! By proving myself I had to show that I was SAFE! I had to prove that I wasnt trying to separate or take anyone's place in his life. In time strangers become the best of friends! As a stepmother I had to make a conscious effort to start bonding slowly! If your new to the #stepmomlife start small. Ask your stepchildren if they want to take a walk. Ask them if they wanna go for a coffee run or join you in the grocery store so they can pick out their favorite snacks! Show them that you are intrested in what they like! In order to really bond with your stepchildren ▪︎build a friendship ▪︎give them space ▪︎ recognize everyone's role ▪︎be a family ▪︎laugh a lot Today, my bonus babe and I were all alone! My oldest is at his dads for the weekend and my husband is gone for work! We spent time napping, watching tv, gym, lunch, learning the floss, more tv and lastly a PHOTOSHOOT! No lasting relationship can be rushed! I know we want to hurry build bonds and get along but it all takes time! We have built our family around being open and honest. Most importantly we have build our family around UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! How did you build a bond with your stepchildren? Are you still working on ways to bond? Share your tips with us!
As stepparents we are so often filled with doubt and fear. Which then leads us to creating a lack of confidence in ourselves! . . . . 💥Scared of failure as a stepparent💥 . . . . I let my confidence slowly slip away! I allowed my voice to go silent! I let my thoughts of fear and failure take control. . I let the critics who whispered I wasn't enough get the best of me. . . . I felt as if I was walking through life motionless. . Can you relate 🙋🏽♀️ . Once I figured out that I had nothing to prove to anyone except myself it all started coming together! . I realized that all those people that thought that I wasn't enough as a STEPPARENT were always going to think that! I wasn't going to change their mind! . And that is ok! . I realized my fear of failure was because I cared so much of what everyone else thought of me. . Could you imagine what life would be like if we had no fears? . I had to trust in myself! I had to tell myself I was worthy of this NEW family! I was worthy of a second chance! . I started going to the gym to become physically, mentally, and emotionally stronger! . I realized with confidence I could walk alone! . Confidence changes everything! . I encourage you to do 1 thing for yourself every single day! . Pay attention to how that makes you feel! . I'm so excited to launch Confident StepMom Chronicles soon! . If you want to end the struggle and gain your confidence back MESSAGE ME! . Let's chat! . I want to help you take control of your life again and create a successful Stepfamily!
💥I'M DONE💥 . . . . I'd be lying if I told you we have NEVER packed our bags and wanted to call it quits. . . I've laid awake many nights crying and contemplating if this life was for me. Wondering if my husband was even happy? . . Whether it was physically or emotionally we've all had that moment where we've considered packing up and throwing in the towel. . . 🚨BLENDING IS TOUGH . . In this world of blended families you have to have tough skin because 60-70% of step families don't make it! . . . 💥That is HUGE💥 . . If you've ever had this feeling STOP by and drop me an emoji 🙋🏽♀️ . . Your not alone! . . Staying and riding out what felt like endless storms has been so worth it! I turned my pain into my passion! Started sharing my blendedhustle with the world 🌍 I want to reach blended families all over the world and tell them ♡YOU• ARE •NOT• ALONE♡ . . . It is ok to feel like you want to give up! We are human! You are normal! 💥However, it is NOT ok to stay STUCK in that place💥 . . Do you remember a specific moment that you were ready to pack up? Do you remember how you felt when you decided you were going to ride the storm out? Do you remember what the end felt like? . . If your in the middle of your storm and your bags are packed I encourage you use this moment to fuel up. Use this time to reorganize your dynamics! . .
A•L•O•N•E My husband left us for 8 weeks to train for work and I was scared to death! Would I have ever told him that? Would you have ever noticed? 🚫NOOOOOOOO🚫 Leading up to the days before my husband left you could tell he was frantic! Getting all his stuff together and really worrying about our youngest baby. >>>For those of you who are NEW to the #blendedhustle gang our oldest child is mine and our youngest baby is my husbands<<< The separation anxiety was REAL More for my husband than our youngest baby, which automatically made me super nervous and completely anxious with self doubt and wanting to do a great job. I wanted our children to feel as if everything was going to be ok because mom was here. I thought up so many different scenarios in my head: My stepson would cry everyday and feel as if I was a stranger He would say "your not my mom" He would be anxious Not listen to me The kids would fight constantly Well it turns out WE MAKE THE SITUATIONS SO MUCH MORE CHAOTIC IN OUR HEAD! My kids have just been kids My stepson hasn't treated me any different Our time apart from DAD has been more normal than we thought it would be We all needed this time apart! 💫For me I needed to see that I would be ok raising two boys all alone. 💫I've learned that I hold the key to my happiness! 💫I learned confidence on a whole new level. 💫For my oldest he needed to learn to be a true leader. 💫For my youngest he needed to be apart from Daddy to realize all would be ok and he would still feel just as loved. 💫💫AND for my husband he needed to be alone with himself and his thoughts! For US all as a blended family WE have learned to appreciate our time together MORE! Have you made up a scenario in your head with your blended family that turned out to be better than you expected? Tell me about it!
❗Confession❗ Wanna know the truth? I used to he a stepmonster 💔 Before I gave birth to my own baby I had stepchildren! I was a kid trying to be a mother figure! I wasn't taught to be a great stepparent! I was a kid who absolutely despised my stepmother and stepfather! They were both bitter to their stepchildren! As children we are taught how to act. As humans living life we know most often times history repeats itself! I was jealous I was bitter I was hateful I wanted the attention I was absolutely Awful 💔 (I am so embarrassed to admit) But I'm human! The father of my child and I never worked out for other reasons of course. But....... 💫I grew 💫I learned 💫I overcame I had my own child and realized how unfair I was being. I realized I wanted to give what I never was given. Unconditional love no matter if they loved me back or not. Today I am so glad my son's siblings dont treat him any different because of my childish behavior! Today I forgive myself for my actions! I completely wholeheartedly apologize for being such a monster! Allow yourself to forgive the person you used to! Become that person you've always knew you could be! If your struggling on your Stepfamily journey I want you to know your NOT alone! I want you to make a list of things your struggling with today and for each one you write down make a solution. Big or small! Learn to grow 🌻 Things will get better 💗 Be easy on yourself!
I spend so much time talking about my journey as a step mother that I often times forget about my husband's journey! . I know that being a stepdad isnt easy! For some men they can have so much pride or ego that can really be hard on a situation. . I praise my handsome husband for having to deal with my ex and his ego! I praise him for his patience 💙 . . Even with my son, having to deal with his hurt and anger. There used to be countless nights he heard "your not my dad" 💔 Watching him handle these moments with compassion and so much more love has taught me patience, strength, vulnerability, and most of all unconditional love! . . He has taught me so much about being a great step mother and through this #blendedhustle platform he has been my biggest fan! . . I dont give him half the credit he deserves every single day 🙌🏼🙌🏼 . . Watching him sit on the end of the bed with our boys and pray every single night makes me fall more and more in love with him every single night 💗 . . 💫Take a moment and tell your significant other how incredible they are today! 💫Tell them at least one thing they do that makes you so proud of them! 💫Tell them they are doing a great job! . 🌻Whatever it is I promise you, you will make their day! . . . @oregon_outlook I love you and you are a phenomenal #bonusdad I wish growing up I would of had a #stepfamily like ours 💗 thank you for teaching me so much on our journey! 🥂 cheers to many many more years! . . . . . . . . #blendedlife #blendedfamily #blendedfamilycoach #lifestylecoach #lifecoach #life #stepfamily #stepdad #mom #dad #bonusfamily #stepfamilycoach #askforhelp #love #lovewins #goals #thankful #husband #journey #unconditionallove
Would you say your a confident Stepparent? . . Or do you doubt who you are because of other people? . . For a long time I doubted my ability out of guilt! . 💥Guilt for not staying in my relationship with the father of my child. 💥Guilt from the exs 💥Guilt from thinking my child would think I was giving all my love to another child. . . 💥I could go on and on and tell you it is a never ending battle of GUILT! . . I encourage you to stop giving a damn what anyone else thinks! . . . 💫You give your family unconditional love no matter what the situation is. . . 💫You teach your kids unconditional love for one another. 💫Show respect 💗 to EVERYONE including yourself! . 💫Stay confident in who you are! . 💫Show your kids how to be confident 💪 . 💫Show up and show love for your blended bunch! . . Confident Stepmom Chronicles are startimg soon and I encourage you to come on over and check it! •We cover how to be a confident stepparent! •How to deal with guilt! •How to overcome the excuses! •How to have a HEALTHY co-parenting relationship • How to stop feeling insecure about being the "second wife" • What to say when your stepkids say “I don’t have to listen to you, you’re not my mom” ALL THINGS CONFIDENT! . . . What are you struggling with? Head on over to my DMs and let's chat!
#stepfamilyday . . . Today we celebrate our beautiful blended family💛 . . . . Not everyday is easy but we continue to be a team and help eachother every single day 💗 . . . I encourage you in your own blended family to stick through the darkest days because they lead to the most beautiful memories 🌻 . . A HUGE THANK YOU TO MY BlendedHustle for being so awesome and teaching me something every single day! . . . #stepfamilyday2019 #blendedhustle #blendedlife #blendedfamily #blendedfamilycoach #lifestylecoach #lifecoach #life #stepfamily #stepdad #mom #dad #bonusfamily #stepfamilycoach #askforhelp #love #lovewins #goals #family
💥Wanna know the key to surviving as a STEPMOTHER . . We don’t allow ourselves the freedom to be goofy or silly because there is a sense of always needing to be calm, cool and collected. Many of us are so worried about what other people think and how they will perceive us that it is paralyzing. We present ourselves as a perfectly put together package, and often won’t risk stepping out of line for fear of tarnishing our polished exterior. . . Laughter, song and dance create emotional and spiritual connection; they remind us of the one thing that truly matters when we are all searching for comfort, celebration, inspiration, or healing. . . Now stop for a minute and think about the last time you had a good laugh. How long has it been? . . . . Here's to living wholeheartedly and letting go of always being cool and in control otherwise you won't survive in this world. . . .. . #blendedhustle #blendedlife #blendedfamily #blendedfamilycoach #lifestylecoach #lifecoach #life #stepfamily #stepdad #mom #dad #bonusfamily #stepfamilycoach #laughing #laughter #fun #liveyourbestlife
If you would have asked me years ago, how well do my children get along I would have rolled my eyes while screaming inside my head. Getting along with a new sibling when your used to being the only child is one hell of a transition. Not only for you but for the children 💛 They go from having all of your attention to having to share it with everyone in the "NEW" house. Fighting over love, toys, showers, bathrooms, homework, who gets to hold who's hand. The list goes on and on and onnnnnnnnnnnnn for days. We spent so many restless nights trying to find a solution which then lead to fights defending ourselves or our children. In a blended family all the odds are against you. ALL OF YOU! What we have learned through all the years is COMPROMISE :) Even in this video while making precious memories and years and years later it is still about compromise. My oldest baby is compromising with his brother on the way he wants him to hold his hand in order to jump in the water together. That is pretty much what a blended family feels like in case you were wondering🤯 Everyone compromising when and how to jump into the "NEW" normal of a blended family! 💥If you starting out and things don't seem to be going your way COMPROMISE, help be the solution. 💥If your in the middle of your relationship and everything in the beginnning was smooth sailing but now you've decided to move in together and now there are more and more issues, remember COMPROMISE. 💥If your dealing with HCBM/BD remember COMPROMISE even if it hurts your pride! . . . Now I'm not saying compromise to the point you neglect yourself i'm just saying compromise so that everyone is happy! . . 💫Blending takes time 💫Hustle takes effort